Engagement, Wedding and Marriage

Getting engaged and married.  What amazing moments of joy they bring!

Those moments are fleeting, as what comes next is the real work.  Marriage.   

Marriage requires constant work and energy.  This is why you should marry your friend.  Your partner in crime.  The person that completes you.

For me it happened this way...

The engagement came the day I found out the sex of my first daughter. January 18 2012. He took me out to a restaurant to celebrate our 6th anniversary as a couple. 

We finished our meal and went back home, where we proceeded to get comfortable on the couch to watch TV. 

To my great surprise, he took a square box from his pocket and got down on one knee and gave me a speech, which to this day I can’t remember what he said, because of all the emotions that came rushing over me.  He proposed!  I remember it being sweet, kind, full of love and that he meant it. It wasn’t forced, it felt real. He wanted what I wanted. He wanted to give me what I wanted. The truest form of love anyone can ask for. Selfless proof of love.

He had gone back home to his parents, the Christmas prior, in London, UK.  He took time to search high and low to find me the perfect ring for his perfect girl.

We lived through our next few months, as expecting parents and new fiancés, very much in love. Full of projects coming our way. We took it one stride at a time, but together. As a team, as partners and lovers.

Love doesn’t mean that you will receive flowers and chocolates every day. Love doesn’t mean being swept off your feet every day or every week. not even every month. Love is making each other laugh, letting each other live and be the best version of ourselves with that person next to us uplifting us and seeing the best of us, even when we don’t always see it in ourselves.

Love means making hard decisions together, as a team. Making concessions.  Uplifting one another.  Being the person that supports you in time of need and voce versa.  Giving 100% of ourselves but allowing ourselves to feel only 10% on other days and seeing how that can fit in the relationship at that time. Love is pure and kind, it doesn’t judge and projects. It is pure and simple.

You may not always see eye to eye, but taking the time to communicate your needs and desires.  And have the other partner hold you at whatever level of emotions you are in, is the rarest form of love. 

Later on that year, our daughter was born. 

A few months later, we planned our wedding. A simple wedding planning in an all-inclusive resort in Mexico, that would end up happening in January 2013, surrounded by our loved ones. 

A Marriage is not all just about the wedding. It is not just the happily ever after everyone thinks of. It is sacred and need work, everyday. Effort, Thought, Love, communication and the determination that no matter what, if you both want it and work at it, it can surmount anything. Both need to want to be on the same page and want the same thing. 

A marriage often presents the mirror to what you need to build and work on for yourself, in this lifetime. It's about finding a way to do it... if the love is strong enough.

Love can also evolve and change. It's about continuously getting to know ourselves and our partner.

In a marriage there is the ME, the YOU and the WE.  All 3 need to have attention and care.  Otherwise, we can easily lose one another or ourselves.

Live, Love and Laugh, that’s what it’s all about. Xx

What path did you have in love?  What lessons did you learn through love?